Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Ashley Madison OH MY!!

So, with the recent hacking of Ashley Madison, there is a lot of talk about how karma is biting cheaters in the ass and so forth.  I thought I'd give my 2 cents worth on this topic.

1. Cheating is wrong. Yes, it is, and we all know it.  However, that doesn't stop people from doing it.  It is rare to find someone that has NEVER cheated in ANY relationship they have ever been in,  however that doesn't make it right.  When you cheat, you also have to lie and sneak....so when you start piling on the wrongs, it becomes a slippery slope.  Cheating is a lot of work, so why don't people just not cheat??

2.  People cheat because often times it's easier than getting divorced.  There are those that will say "Don't cheat, just get a divorce!".  In a perfect world, that would be the right answer.  However, in the REAL WORLD it isn't always that easy.  Often, money and children keep us in relationships that we'd leave if circumstances were different. 
Sometimes, you may truly love your partner but your sex life has become boring/stale/or non-existent.  Is that an excuse to cheat? No.  But, it is reality.  A lot of people on Ashley Madison were looking for things they didn't have at home...someone who was willing to try something new, to try a fantasy or fetish.  Some were just looking for something/someone different.  That sucks, but it's true.

3.  Men are bigger cheaters than women.  Actually, there was a study that said it's about 50/50 now days.  Yes, years ago, men cheated more, but now women are out in the work force, have their own money and that has lead to "cheating equality".  I just made that term up, but that's basically what it is...June Cleaver didn't have the opportunities to cheat on Ward back then as she'd have now.  Of course, what's good for the goose is good for the gander and we all know men can cheat too.  However, the on Ashley Madison men outnumbered women by 5 to 1 (or I think I read that somewhere).  Does that mean men are bigger horn dogs, or just that women are more careful and discreet?  It could go either way.

4.  You dying for the list of hacked information to become easily searchable so you can check to see if your partner is there.  If you are desperate to see the list, because you expect to find your partner's information there, then chances are....it probably will be.  We often know when we are being cheated on, but we make excuses for red flag behavior.  We notice when our partner acts differently, but we will tell that nagging voice in our head that it's nothing...right up until you have the chance to catch that lying bastard/bitch red handed and then you're all over that!  Yeah.....if you think it's so, chances are you don't need the list to know it.

5.  Your partner isn't on the list...but, you wonder....how do you cheat proof your relationship????  Well, there is no 100% way to make sure your partner never cheats.  However, there are things you can do to help decrease the chance of it happening. They are as follows...

COMMUNICATE!!!  Talk to your partner.  Spend time and really know what's going on in their life.  Be involved and not just a bystander.  Ask questions about their day, get their opinion on things, be partners. 

SEX!!! When it comes to sex, if you have been in a relationship for a while, it's easy to get into a rut.  Things become less exciting and more predictable.  Maybe your partner has a fantasy or fetish that they don't feel they can share with you, or maybe sex has dwindled down from 5x a week to 2x a month.  Sex, food, water, sleep....these are things that we NEED as human beings.  Sex is a way of bonding with our partner, it is the reason that we don't just have sex for procreation but also for pleasure.  When it comes to sex, you have to....say it with me....COMMUNICATE.  When things are in a rut, when there is a problem, when sex isn't "doing it for you" anymore....then you have to talk about it.  Burying your head in the sand and thinking the problem will just go away isn't the answer...the problem doesn't go away, it goes to Ashley Madison.  I'm not saying that you have to hump like bunnies to keep your partner from cheating, but I am saying don't underestimate how much a healthy, happy sex life can keep your relationship intact

RESPECT!!!  People will say that honesty is the most important part of a relationship, I disagree...while it is important, the most important aspect of a relationship, in my eyes, is respect.  If you respect your partner,  you will be honest with them.  If you respect your partner, you will work on your relationship.  If you respect your partner, you will communicate with them.  If you respect your partner, you will try not to hurt them.   So, look at how your partner treats you...do they respect you?  Do they value you?  Do they treat you as an equal? Do they care about your feelings? Do they try to build you up instead of tearing you down? The answer to these questions will tell you a lot about the current health of your relationship.

Does being on the Ashley Madison list mean that you are doomed to divorce? No.  But, it does mean that you need to take a hard look at your relationship and communicate openly and honestly with your hurt, and angry partner.  Sometimes you can work through this without help, but honestly it's hard to move past cheating and this is where a marriage counselor or religious leader can be a big benefit to you.  Sometimes it's good to have a neutral 3rd party that can help you work through the "why" and move past it to hopefully build a better, stronger and cheat free relationship. 
However, not everyone is willing to put in the work, time and effort to move past it and in that case, divorce is probably the only option.  If you are caught up in this and you don't want to lose your relationship then you really have one chance to get it right....to be honest...to answer the questions your partner has, even if they are hard.  Continuing to lie shows that you don't want to change, that you lack respect for your partner and their feelings. 

LOVE!!!  Do you love your partner?  Don't just blurt out "YES!"...take a moment and really think about it.....DO YOU LOVE YOUR PARTNER?  If you do, then I hope you can work through this breech of trust and build a stronger relationship, free from cheating.  However, if you don't...then it's probably time to move on, not just for you, but for them as well.  They deserve to be loved.  We all deserve to be truly, madly, deeply loved.  If you can't offer your partner this, then it's time to be honest and move on.  Staying when you don't love your partner anymore isn't what's best for them or you. 

So, the Ashley Madison hack will shake up a lot of lives.  It will cause a lot of hurt, and it will lead to a lot of changes.  However, maybe in the end we can all become better people because of it. 

pic courtesy of www.pinktoybox.tumblr.com
DISCLAIMER:
Now, I am not a therapist, and I'm not a counselor.  I am nothing but a woman that writes a blog.  You can take my advice or not.  You are an adult, and I'm not here to tell you to DO anything.  I'm just here to give perspective. 

Sunday, July 5, 2015

Clothes on or clothes off?

When it comes to sex, do you prefer clothes on or clothes off? Sometimes it's really hot to be partially or even fully dressed, unable to hold back for the time it would take to get naked....just push up a skirt, unzip trousers and just fuck!

However, there are those that prefer to take their time, get completely nude and feel skin to skin, their naked bodies touching at all points.  Is one better than the other? 

I say, why choose?  I think sometimes we get into a rut, where sex becomes the same....every single time.  It's about time to shake it up!  When was the last time you pushed your woman up against a wall, fingered her pussy under her dress and kissed her like it was your last chance?  When was the last time, you got on all 4's, lifted your skirt and showed your lover that you aren't wearing any panties, and  you're ready to take what he has to give?  When was the last time you got completely NAKED, no socks, or tshirts allowed....your sweaty bodies writhing against each other? 

However you normally have sex, tonight...do the opposite!  Break out of the rut.  Inject some fun, and spontaneity back into your love making.  No where is it written that sex always has to be in the bedroom, or that you always have to make love....quickies are allowed and can be quite pleasurable for both parties.

So, clothes on or clothes off...the best part of sex is giving and receiving pleasure.  It's about spending intimate time with your partner, bonding in a way that only the two of you can.  It can be about building love, making up, or just having fun. 

Clothes can be a erotic hindrance that builds anticipation, or they can be completely annoying...in that case, strip naked and don't be afraid to let your lover appreciate every inch of you! Tonight, it's your choice clothes on or clothes off....either way, you get to have an orgasm and that's always good! ;)
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Friday, June 19, 2015

Re-releasing some of my most popular blog posts!

If you are looking for the posts, then scroll down my blog. Because they were published earlier, they will always be under my most recent posts.  (This time, I released 3 posts!)

I will leave the posts up for 2 weeks then they will be retired and replaced.  So, enjoy them while you can!

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Enjoy! XOXO YogaChikk

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Spread it open!

Ok, I'll admit..this post started out with me seeing a very hot gif and that got my mind thinking and my clit buzzing!

There is nothing sexier than when a man spreads my pussy lips apart....he is literally opening me up to his eyes, mouth, fingers and cock.  Until that moment when he pulls my lips apart, everything is hidden..my hard clit, my wetness, my opening.  Once he spreads me open, there is no more hiding, everything is on full display.

Maybe it's just me, but I love it when my partner looks at my pussy...stares at it.  It is such an intimate part of my body that I'm sharing with him, and to see him looking at it in awe...is so incredibly hot!  Plus, I don't care if you are thick or thin, your pussy is always plump, juicy and sexy!!

Personally, opening my legs for my partner is one of the parts of sex that I most anticipate.  That moment when I am giving him full access....offering him my pussy to do with as he wants.  My legs spread open and I put myself on display for his eyes, his cock, or his mouth.  It's a very submissive, but loving position for a woman to allow herself to be opened up in such a way and to have her slit be the center of focus.  As women, we often feel that our bodies aren't good enough, but it's very rare for a woman to think her pussy isn't good enough...it's probably the one part on our body that we don't have to be self conscious about!  Big clit or small, puffy long lips or tight thin ones...big labia or small, it's all good when our lover is looking at it!

So, the next time you are with your lover....spread your legs and let him open you up...let him look all he wants and I bet that you will both find your pussy is not only the center of physical pleasure, but also visual pleasure as well!




Thanks to www.eroticpics.tumblr.com for the awesome and very hot gifs!

Take it all!

There is something so sexy about a man going balls deep as he plows into a wet pussy! Knowing that he's as deep as he can get inside her tunnel...he may even be hitting bottom! When it comes to sex, there is a point when both parties want it to go DEEP! When thrusts become harder, and her pussy stretches to accommodate the full penetration.
Now, I'm not saying to bang away on her cervix from the start...but towards the end, when both partners are into the moment and seconds away from cumming, sometimes a little bump against it proves to both of you that you've reached the limit inside of her! This is often enough to send you both over the edge!

There are times that a woman will look at a cock and think that there is just no way she can take it all.  Her pussy might be too tight or short for his width or length.  However, with time and patience most cocks can be comfortably accommodated in a wet pussy...during sex her tunnel will actually lengthen to take more of him than what was possible at the beginning of sex. Sometimes that's all he needs to get that last inch inside!

Now guys, let me be the first to say, getting in her balls deep is awesome...however, it can be painful to have our cervix bumped.  So, make sure your woman isn't cringing in pain rather than writhing in ecstasy!!  The best way to know that is to look at her face, listen to her moans, or just ask if she likes it! 

I will say there has been a few times that I haven't been able to take all of a cock, no matter how much I tried...or how hard he thrust.  My pussy was at it's maximum capacity and we both had to adjust.  The best way to do that is to let her get on top!  That way she can control the depth of penetration, this is especially helpful if she doesn't like your cock head bumping her cervix.

However, if you really want to take all of it...the best time to do it is during fuck session #2.  He won't be quite as hard as the first time, and that might allow him to get further inside.  Also, make sure to have lots and LOTS of lube...things slide better, and go deeper when the tunnel is nice and slippery!  Ladies, don't be afraid to use lube, and guys don't think because she is reaching for the lube that she isn't turned on, or wet.  Just think of the old saying "wetter is better!".  Let her ride, and don't force it in...let her slowly work herself down on it until she's taking it all...or as much as is comfortable!

Going all the way in, can be sexy and hot...however, even if there is an inch or more that just won't fit...enjoy the sensation, the feeling and know that sometimes Cock A doesn't fit perfectly in Slit B and that's okay!!
 


gifs/pics via www.eroticpics.tumblr.com

Missionary is NOT vanilla!

I personally love missionary position, it's my favorite!  Some people say it's boring or vanilla...I say, you're doing it wrong!  Missionary is a position that can be sensual, dominant, intense, sexy, and fun!  To prove my point, I'm going to post several of the hottest missionary gifs I can find, I bet I can convince you that missionary sex is anything BUT boring! ;)

I really like this one, you can tell he's going deep from the look on her face and how he's got her legs pushed back!  Yeah...give me some of that!!
idletyoudothat:

http://idletyoudothat.tumblr.com/
This one is a little wilder, a little rougher!

Just a slight change of angle and suddenly, it's hitting all the right spots! 

I don't think she's bored, looks like to me she's enjoying getting it fast and deep!
luvs2duit:

Sometimes hard, fast and deep is the only way Honey wants it!
I love the intensity in this one, he is totally focused on thrusting and she just wants more!

If you say you don't want to try this...I won't believe you! ;)

all gifs via www.eroticpics.tumblr.com Thanks!

Saturday, June 13, 2015

Can a past love be a new love?

I think we all have those relationships that come back around for another try....so I started wondering, can a past love be a new love?

I know that there are times that we see things in the press about high school sweethearts that reconnect years later, and fall in love...get married...and are happy, but how often does that happen?

Is it a good thing to let someone that is an ex back into your heart?

Well, there are a few things you have to consider first...why did you break up? Were you constantly fighting, was there disrespect or cheating?  There are some things that are harder to overcome than others.  If you just grew apart, or didn't really give the relationship the attention it needed, then it is easier to mend that divide than if one partner cheated on the other.  So, you have to remind yourself of some pretty uncomfortable and even hurtful memories, you have to answer the question honestly.

Have you grown as people?  Has there been sufficient time for you both to realize what you lost?  Are they still the person that broke your heart, or have they changed?  The person you are at 18, isn't necessarily the person you will be at 35.  So, you have to take into consideration youth and the sometimes really stupid decisions that we make during it.  The main thing is that you both understand what happened the first time and you know how to make sure it doesn't repeat itself.

Do you still feel the same attraction?  Sometimes we will look back at ex's and sigh....because there is just something about them that still draws us, still attracts us.  Other times, we look back and cringe, and wonder what we were thinking?!  You also need to know that attraction for a partner can grow as feelings grow....so, maybe they weren't the hottest guy/girl you ever dated, but as you see how much they make you laugh, how much they care about you, and you about them...they becomes more attractive in your eyes. 

Are you committed this time around?  Sometimes we just don't give a relationship all of our best effort.  We skate by, maybe waiting for something "better" to come along...or maybe, just because our heart isn't really in it.  So, this time around, are you willing to put in the effort?  Are you willing to take the good with the bad?  If you aren't, then don't start things up again, because you'll just end up hurting them...again.

Will you communicate honestly?  Sometimes the biggest hurdle in a relationship is communication.  We don't say what we want or need.  We don't resolve problems, because talking/fighting is uncomfortable.  We avoid touchy issues, like sex and money, because those are hard conversations.  Well, if you are going to revisit a past relationship then you have to be willing to TALK and LISTEN.  You may not always hear what you want, but if you talk to your partner about all the things that you need to be happy then you might find out, they need the exact same things.  Communication is one, if not THE most important thing in a relationship, if you can't talk to your partner then you might as well move on, because it is over before it even began. 

Going back to a failed relationship is scary....there are a lot of hurdles and past hurts to overcome, but if you realize what you lost, and what you want...then it's worth it.  Be open, be honest and maybe you can be one of those stories that we read about where lost loves find each other again.
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Thanks to www.pinktoybox.tumblr.com for the pics!