The bondage that most people are familiar with is of the more normal variety. Its the reason that fuzzy handcuffs became popular, because in a trusting relationship..a little bondage can be FUN! You can give up control to your partner, and you basically get to lay there and do nothing but enjoy the action! You can be tied down with a variety of items, everything from a man's tie to a woman's stockings...you can be blindfolded as well, or not. This is typically a mild version of bondage and it is often experimented with by men and women equally. At this point, both partners enjoy the teasing aspect of bondage play. You can bring in props such as feathers or even administer a spanking as you see fit. This is an excellent level of bondage if you want to try out a bit of domination/submission play without getting too deep into it. It allows for a lot of communication and free play among partners and is a personal favorite of mine!
As part of D&S play...the submissive partner is almost always the one being subjected to the bondage. This can be more intense, adding in actual restraints during this sexual play. This is typically a form of "punishment" for the submissive partner. Often a partner is tied up and left alone for an amount of time to build up the anticipation of the encounter. Also, at this juncture a partner may not only engage in bondage but also in the use of whips/crops/or paddles to up the level of "punishment". This can be very pleasurable to both partners. Sex at this level is typically intense and rough. The bondee is at the "mercy" of his or her partner. A Dominatrix usually operates within this realm, to give you an idea of the level of intensity. However, a safe word is a must at this point. This will allow the submissive partner to put an IMMEDIATE STOP to the action for any reason they feel is necessary. I wouldn't recommend this level of sex play with anyone but a trusted partner.
In the form of a fetish the bondage can get extreme. It can be used at this point by either partner. There are elements of control/punishment/pain and a sexual gratification that can be achieved by both partners at this level. The bondage may include black out hoods that zip over the bondee's head, covering their eyes and usually with a built in gag and only nostril air holes. The bondage at this point can also become extreme with multiple props...an example would be a spreader bar. Which is a 2-3 foot wooden rod with attached restraints on either end that allow the bondee's legs to be spread then restrained. Sometimes there is elaborate tying of the knots and not just purchased restraints. There may also be items such a nipple and clit clips to up the pain ante for the bondee. The bondee may actually be restrained standing, kneeling, laying, squatting or in more contorted poses. This level of fetish requires complete trust with your partner along with safe words and signals that can be used if the bondee is also gagged.
As with all sex play, communication is vital. It is important to trust your partner and know your limits and boundaries. Your partner should be very aware of what you do and do not enjoy. Safety is paramount with bondage. Personally, I would start with the mildest forms and then slowly work your way up as you and your partner are comfortable.
So, buy a pair of fuzzy handcuffs..or break out an old tie (way to use up those birthday gift ties!) and see if a little bit of bondage is right up your alley. The only way you'll know is to give it a try! :)
via Yany's EroticPics
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