I think every woman has been hit on by a cheesy guy with a horrid pick up line and bad manners. Trust me, you don't want to be THAT guy...so how do you hit on a woman and not have her roll her eyes in disgust at your "moves"...well read on my dear, and I will tell you! :)
First, make eye contact. There is a reason it is said that the eyes are windows to our souls...you are able to express so many things just with eye contact. So, if you see a lovely woman across the room, catch her eye and don't look away. If she's interested, she'll look away, and then look back. This is the start of the dating dance!
Second, smile...to keep your eye contact from looking creepy like the dude from Silence of the Lambs...you have to smile. A smile is a great way of letting her know that you like what you see! It doesn't have to be a full on grin, but definitely make it enough of a smile that it doesn't look like a sneer or that you have gas!
Third, wink at her. Yes, winking is old fashioned, but it sends a very clear signal that you are interested in HER. If for some reason she doesn't get your eye contact/smile as a show of interest (maybe she's had too many margaritas to pick up on subtlety!) Then a wink is a sure fire way of catching her attention.
Now...let me say this. If you do eye contact and she avoids your eyes...she looks away and doesn't look back, then that is a sign that she is probably not interested. If she doesn't return your smile..again, chances are, she's not interested. So, you might want to stop there. There is no need to wink at a woman that obviously isn't into you. Simply move your gaze around the room and find someone that is looking at YOU. Then repeat steps 1-2 and 3 ;)
Fourth, walk towards her and introduce yourself. Stick with something simple and truthful...I personally like "I'm John Doe and I just wanted to come over and say hello to the prettiest woman in the room." Simple and complimentary. Just make sure that you haven't already used this line on 3 other women sitting at her table, or you'll definitely look cheesy. Women have a built in bullshit radar, so if you are going to compliment her on ANYTHING, make sure its sincere!
Fifth, don't be afraid to laugh...humor is sexy!! Just make sure that its not humor at the expense of someone else, that is never funny to women. Also, don't...ever...bash another female in front of us. Saying things like, "My buddy over there went for the heifer tonight, he's wearing his beer goggles!"..isn't funny and it is a sure fire way of making you look like a douche. Disrespect is never sexy and cracking jokes about another woman's flaws will only make us think you'll be staring at ours looking for your next one liner. What you can do is self deprecating humor, it lets us know that you don't take yourself too seriously. Its also a great way of lightening the mood and moving beyond the awkwardness of a first meeting. When you laugh together, and share a joke..you feel a connection. And, that is what you want, to build connections!!
Sixth, don't make us guess if you like us. I've been approached by men before that chatted me up in a bar and then when it was time to part ways...there was a weird moment where I was waiting for them to ask for my number and they acted like they were waiting for me to offer it. I can tell you, I'm never going to offer it unless you ask for it..that is just my rule. If you do ask for it, then call. If you aren't going to call..then shake her hand, tell her it was nice meeting her, that you need to get back to your friends or you see someone that you should say hi too, and move on. I think too often men ask for women's numbers even though they know they will never call, just to get out of an awkward social situation. There are other ways to disengage yourself when you don't feel that you are clicking without making some poor girl jump everytime her phone rings for the next 2 days. Man up and do it right, don't take the wuss way out!
Seventh...you got her digits. Good for you, obviously there was a mutual attraction there, so call her. I know there are stupid articles that say wait 24 hours or your buddies will tell you that they don't call a girl for 2 days ...blah blah blah! If it was me, I'd send her a text within a half an hour of parting ways, thanking her for a wonderful time/chat/dance and telling her you can't wait to talk to her again. Trust me, she will smile from ear to ear when she gets that text. Women love knowing you can't stop thinking about us...not that you put us out of your mind for 2 days until you found our number in your pocket as you were cleaning them out to throw in the wash! After that initial text, then call her within 8-12 hours. She'll have had a chance to get some sleep, talk to her best friend about you and re-read your text at least twice. Strike while the iron is hot my friend!
Eighth...when you call her. Again, keep it light..tell her how much fun you had. Keep it truthful, and sweet. Women love romantic and sweet. Men now days, underestimate the power of romance. You can set yourself apart from the pack, simply by being romantic. An example, if she agrees to a date...bring her flowers (you can buy a $10 bouquet at most grocery stores and she'll be thrilled!), open the car door (actually all doors!) for her. Hold her hand...let me say that again...HOLD HER HAND. Today, there is such an emphasis on speed dating and getting to first base by the second date that the idea of dating and romance has gone to the wayside and women miss it!!
If you are just looking to get laid then of course, ignore everything I've said in this article. However, if you are looking for a relationship...then spend at least 2 weeks getting to know her, and date her..before you ever plan on sleeping with her. Often you hit the sack too soon and then suddenly you realize a week later, that you really don't have anything in common...or that sex has now become the main focus of your relationship and bam...its over. So, instead of that happening, try a novel idea its called DATING!
Ninth...the first kiss. Okay, so you've had a lovely date, you had a good time and you want to see her again. However, now you're standing at her door and there is that awkward moment when you don't know if she wants you to kiss her or not. I say this...throw caution to the wind and lean in, she will either meet you for the kiss or turn her head so you kiss her cheek. Don't stand there looking at her, waiting for a sign...just face her, hold both her hands with yours and lean in so she has no doubt you are going to kiss her. If she meets you half way then you are speeding down the 2nd date highway. If she offers you her cheek, then she may not be feeling the same connection. At this point, if you are still interested, call her again. If she blows you off with some excuse, chances are there won't be a 2nd date.
Tenth...remember that compliments should be sincere. Romance and sweetness isn't a sign of weakness its a sign that you know how to treat a woman (and we all like that!). Open doors, hold her hands and have fun. Dating is about finding out if you connect with someone or not, its not life or death. So enjoy it!!
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