For me something that is erotic ...hints at sexuality. It is the picture of an intense kiss or a woman unzipping her gown to reveal that there is nothing underneath her dress, at least that is what your imagination will tell you...but you won't actually SEE her naked. To me erotic is something that draws you in and makes you want to see, or know more. Erotic is the feeling of being teased...just enough to make your pussy wet or cock hard.
Pornographic is more hard core. Often there is no mystery...its out in the open SEX. To me pornography isn't bad, it simply is what it is. Sometimes you want a taste, sometimes you want the whole cookie and pornography is definitely the whole cookie! I think there is room for both. Sometimes I like the gentle teasing that comes with erotica...either in book or picture form. And, sometimes I just want hot lusty sex...usually in some visual medium, either a picture or video. I don't make any apologies for liking pornography. Its sexy to see other people fucking. It makes my pussy wet and makes me crave a cock between my thighs!
I have a friend that is completely against pornography in any form, but she'll read a romance novel and drool over the sexy sections. I say, if that is what you are comfortable with, then so be it. We all have personal boundaries. However, my boundary happens to include porn! I have seen other people having sex, I've let other people watch me have sex. I've watched porn and tried to mimic what the other people were doing with my partner...all of it has been fun.
Now, is there social issues that come from pornography...of course. But, you can't suppress sexuality. Sexuality will find a way, because its a basic human need. However, I'm not going to focus on that, because there are enough people in the world telling you how bad pornography is...I think you've heard the argument enough times already.
Back to erotic...to me there is room for erotica in every sex life. There is room for an appreciation for art and the human form. For the curves of a woman to the jutting angles of a man. Erotic allows you to finish the moment in your mind....the zipper coming down and the dress falling off. The towel dropping exposing the extent of his excitement...the wetness that is just barely hidden by a pair of panties. Erotica can be an amazing addition to your sex life, either as a couple or individually. It can cause delicious fantasies that transport you to realms of ecstacy.
So tonight, pick up a sexy book, look at the pics in my blog...or find some of your own. But, take a moment to find out what is erotic to you!
above video via yany's eroticpics
above pics via http://pinkprincess17.tumblr.com/archive
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ReplyDeleteAs always, nicely put. I find the woman for to stir erotic images, softer sex. Kissing and touch and taste. But pornography is about men's Needs and Wants,and how they take it. All in all, whatever floats your boatn and allows you and your partner happy fucking.
Excellent, excellent post, my dear.
ReplyDeleteAs with you, when it comes to the erotica versus pornography premiss, I would say it's completely incorrect to use the "I know it when I see it" out, because it's so damn obvious to thee and me (and most mammals with an IQ above room temperature, I believe) that I'm outraged when people misidentify and subsequently comment on/condemn it.
One of the sexiest scenes in motion pictures I ever saw was in "In Harm's Way" between Patricia Neal and John Wayne.
Yes... I'm not kidding: Patricia Neal and John Wayne.
There's no sex, no nudity, no strategically covering sheets, no bed, no naughty words, no nothin' -- just PASSION.
Neal's a nurse who got to know Wayne after the attack on Pearl Harbor. He's an officer who knows they're both about to ship out for the burgeoning Pacific conflict. Wayne's in his quarters and she's visiting. A brief exchange between the two confirms they won't be seeing one another "for the foreseeable future."
Without breaking eye contact with the seated Neal, Wayne picks up the phone and rings his officer roommate, Burgess Meredith, and asks if he can make other rooming arrangements for the night. Meridith (naturally) agrees. Neal and Wayne inhabit the moment. Neal slips off her shoes. The delightfully playful music in the background reaches a whimsical conclusion.
That's it.
And it's HOT.
THAT, dear friends, is Erotic.
Again, we're talking Patricia Neal and John Wayne. Clothed. Never kissing. Never touching.
And it's HOT.
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Now, I've written a lot of poetic/nasty shit in my time via the delightfully weird subculture of penning Erotica on Spec, so I know whereof I speak. I'm sure it's strange enough to fill the needs of a bored, rich wife when you're married to one, but writing pure pornography in the "acceptable" guise of pure erotica as a truly personalized -- yet vaguely anonymous -- and shareable "coffee table short story" FOR one is a strange trip, indeed.
Writing Scully and Mulder's first kiss AFTER their first fuck in a manner commensurate with how their FBI-tainted analytical brains would see it was a true delight, but writing for a bored gal who just wants to be written into an erotic storyline that MUST include seriously hardcore sexual encounters that touch on an unfulfilled menu of her fantasies is, well... A bit wacky.
A woman standing along the long, flat face of a kitchen counter looking out a window is -- nice.
A woman standing along the long, flat face of a kitchen counter, palms flat on the granite as she gently bobs up and down while she grinds her mons against the counter's edge as she's looking out a window is -- erotic.
A woman standing along the long, flat face of a kitchen counter who nonchalantly grabs a banana as she's looking out a window is -- well, you get the picture.
I'm more of an aural voyeur than I am a visual one, so that we call "erotic" works for me on several levels, but I am equally thrilled by the nastiest (i.e.: get out the mayonnaise and shave the squirrel) rumpy-pumpy you can throw my way. BUT...
...I know the difference, and I applaud the use of both to enrich our sexual lives.
Just as I'm sure your readers do, too.
From a man who'd rather kiss her on the mouth because he finds no greater pleasure than this magically simple yet single highest expression of human sexuality,
@The_Monarch
Courtesy of Brad Paisley, I think he says it best...
ReplyDeleteWhen you see a deer, you see Bambi
And I see antlers up on the wall
You see a lake you think picnics
And I see a large mouth up under that log.
You’re probably thinkin’ that you’re gonna change me
In some ways, well, maybe you might
Scrub me down, dress me up
Oh, but no matter what, remember, I’m still a guy.
When you see a priceless French painting
I see a drunk naked girl
You think that riding a wild bull sounds crazy
And I’d like to give it a whirl.
Well, love makes a man do some things he ain’t proud of
And in a weak moment I might
Walk your sissie dog, hold your purse at the mall
But remember, I’m still a guy.
And I’ll pour out my heart, hold your hand in the car
Write a love song that makes you cry
Then turn right around, knock some jerk to the ground
‘Cause he copped a feel as you walked by.
I can hear you now talkin’ to your friends
Sayin’, yeah girls, he’s come a long way
From draggin’ his knuckles and carryin’ a club
And buildin’ a fire in a cave.
But when you say a backrub means only a backrub
And you swat my hand when I try
Well, now what can I say at the end of the day
Honey, I’m still a guy
Erotic vs pornagraphic..... Well you really are diving into the minutest of differences between the two. But neither wrong in their own right. They are meant as something for grown adults to enjoy, and hopefully enjoy as partners. I think if more couples could learn to appreciate the two for what they are, and they enjoy the two then they can use it as an enhancer to their relationship. I love that my woman actually enjoys looking a little as well. Because when it comes down to it, while that picture or video my get the mood set, it's my woman that really does it for me and me that does it for her.
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