Break up sex vs. Make up sex

I started thinking about break up sex, and that lead to a few memories of make up sex as well...I started wondering, which is better?

With break up sex, there is a sense of finality.  One last time, so to speak... Suddenly, you feel wilder, sexier and more intense than you may have ever felt with your partner before.  There is a weight lifted off your shoulders about pleasing them...every man/woman for themselves when it comes to break up sex! 

However, with make up sex, it's passionate and emotional.  There is a feeling of reconnecting and mending the hurt.  Make up sex is the sex that bonds you back together.  It is ALL about pleasing your partner..for both of you.  Suddenly, you want to do everything you know your partner likes, wants or has ever even mentioned!

Which is better?  Is that even a fair question?  They are so different, because emotionally you are in two different places.  In one you're letting go, in the other, you're bringing home.  I guess, I've had really great break up and make up sex in my life.  I've had partners that were the best in bed the moment we felt like we no longer had anything to lose, when we let our inhibitions free.  I will say that break up sex can get intense, especially if there are still unvented feelings that might show up in the bedroom.  Hair pulling, biting, ass smacking, wrist grabbing..the list goes on and on.  The thing is,  you can't let release turn into aggression.  Trying to hurt your partner is never permitted or acceptable.  If you feel you can't control your emotions enough to see break up sex for what it is...then don't have it, leave and move on. 

On the same note, don't get so caught up in the allure of make up sex that you forget the reasons why you broke up in the first place.  Yes, make up sex is bonding and loving, but tomorrow is a new day and unless you TALK about your issues then you'll be having break up sex again before long. 

Sex is a wonderful tool that we've been given to help us navigate our relationships.  It connects us, bonds us, helps us procreate and let's us feel loved and wanted.  However, it isn't a cure all.  Communication, honestly, loyalty are all more important to a relationship than sex. So, don't get tunnel vision when it comes to make up or break up sex and forget what is really important...love.
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Show me what you've got!

As I look through pics for my blog...I'm always coming across women showing off their pussies.  I think there is nothing wrong with flaunting what you've got ;)  A lot of women worry about their jiggly bits and they forget that men have tunnel vision, spread your legs and suddenly they couldn't care less about your dimpled thighs...all they see if the "highway to heave" between your legs!

Plus, I don't care if you have a fat pussy, a skinny pussy, big lips, small lips, protruding lips, hidden lips..or anything else.  Every pussy is a pretty pussy to the man that is about to fuck it!  All they are thinking about is how it's going to look split open by their cock! 

So, don't hesitate to let your lover see between your legs...in fact, spread them and be proud, you have an amazing pussy that will bring BOTH of you lots of pleasure.  Touch it, spread it..and let him feast his eyes and hopefully lips on it!  If you still aren't convinced, let me say this...

Have you ever seen an ugly cock?  I haven't.  On every partner I ever had...I was mesmerized by his cock!  I loved it, no matter the length or the girth.  Every cock was an extension of someone I cared about and so I thought it was sexy as hell.  So, ladies..don't be shy about letting your man look at your pussy, lick it..or watch you play with it.  It's a glorious site for him to see you all horny and wet, and the thought of you "prepping" your pussy for him, will likely be the hottest thing he's ever seen! 

So, tonight...turn on the light and spread your legs and see what happens...I'm certain it will be something naughty! ;)

Ohhhh..wow...

Today marks the ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY OF MY BLOG!!

Sometimes I find videos or pics when I'm researching for my blog and I think they are so awesome that I HAVE to share them with you, even though they may not correspond to an actual blog post.  Sometimes they are weird, sometimes sexy and sometimes a bit of both ;) 
I added my thoughts to each one...hope you enjoy! ;) hehe!!  Btw, this is a video heavy post, so it may be slow to load on cell phones.

I always knew pearls were good for something besides jewelry! ;)


Around and around he goes..where he stops, nobody knows!! lmao


Synchronized thumbing...this should be an Olympic sport! ;)


Just the tip baby...just the tip!! HOT HOT HOT!


I wonder who is enjoying this more?


The sexiest "withdrawal" ever!!


I'm hoping this is in fast forward..otherwise..yikes!


If you ever wondered....

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Did she fake it??

In honor of my ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY of this blog...I wanted to post the blog that started it all.  I never realized it would take off like it did and that men as well as women would enjoy it.  I'm honored to have found loyal readers and friends over the last year...and for the 240,000 views! THANK YOU!!!


Did she fake it?? This is a question men have asked for years. Unlike our male counterparts...it is a little more difficult to tell when a woman has reached that blissful pinnacle than it is for a man. Women will sometimes fake it, with a lot of porn star moaning and shaking, leaving you to wonder...did I rock her world, or is it time for her favorite TV show and she just wants to get this over with?? Well, I'm here to tell you a few well kept female secrets. I know these, because I have insider information, being female gets me into the club.

Secret 1- You can thrust away all day and all night and if she isn't getting clitoral stimulation, then all that moaning she is doing is probably because you're fucking her raw. A woman's clit is full of nerve endings...more in that one little concentrated spot than in your whole penis..in comparison. When you touch it, be gentle. Don't grab it like an ape with the last banana. This sensitive little nub responds best to gentle, light touches..at least in the beginning. You want to coax it out from under its hood, lure it into the action. It will totally be worth that little bit of extra effort when she is talking to her friends about how YOU ARE THE BEST SEX SHE HAS EVER HAD!! This is also a time for lubrication, I don't care how wet she gets, wetter is always better..even for us. So add some lube to your fingers and be gentle, no pinching or pulling or slapping. At least not yet. Right now just slide your finger back and forth or in small circular motions over her clitoris and I will guarantee you the moans you start to hear will be genuine!

Secret 2- Most women do not orgasm from penetration alone!! If you think you are the lucky fella that got the ONE woman that does...well you're probably fooling yourself and she's probably wishing you'd get a clue. So, what do you do now?? You've primed her clit, coaxed it out from under its hood and its shiny pink and ready for action. Do you climb on and start thrusting away, totally forgetting her little nub or do you encourage her to touch it, do you massage it during sex, do you slide a vibrator against it? Any of the last 3 options are the correct answer, that should have been an easy multiple choice..this isn't rocket science, its clit science! Personally, this is the point that I typically take things into my own hands so to speak. You get to watch me touch myself while you get to fully concentrate on thrusting, and I get to massage my clit with the pressure and rhythm that I need. It is a win-win situation!

Secret 3- For the best orgasm a woman needs YOU. The feeling of both a penetrating penis and clitoral stimulation will bring her to the highest of peaks. That isn't to say that each on its own doesn't feel good...they most certainly do, but if you want her to reach the highest level, then give her BOTH at the same time. The combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation is one way to make her scream your name!

Secret 4- When a woman cums, how do you know?? This is a little more difficult, because we are each different. I tend to tense up...arch my body...my breathing becomes shallow, my moans become louder and then as I cross that threshold there are both internal pulses and external shudders. A true orgasm can be felt, just don't expect it to always be an obvious clenching...unless she does a LOT of kegels. Think more like soft fluttering squeezes. Once she cums, her clit will be extra sensitive, just like your cock so take care...as she is cumming if you are rubbing her, slow down a bit..ease off on the pressure and you will help extend her orgasm much longer than if you continue with the same intensity and pressure all the way through it.

Secret 5- No matter how wonderful of a lover you are. No matter how perfectly you did everything to our bodies..sometimes we just don't cum. A good way to ensure that will happen is to start asking us every 30 seconds DID YOU CUM?? or ..and this one may shock you...CUM FOR ME BABY! Both of these will almost surely take us out of the zone, not what you want to do!! First, if we haven't cum yet and you start asking "did you cum" then suddenly we feel pressured to fib..because you obviously have no idea and are hoping we have, because you are getting close. Trust us, when we really cum you'll know...especially if you read secret #4. We will usually also usually tell you, as in "OMG, I am cumming!!" You don't need to ask..but if you must, wait until its all over and you're cuddling....yes, I said CUDDLING..then ask. As for the other, it seems encouraging...but again, what it tells us is that you are ready to cum and you're wanting us to rush to the finish line with you. Its NOT going to happen, even if we are close..that sudden sense of pressure to keep up with you will take us out of the zone and often end in a missed opportunity to rock our world. What should you say?? How about...how good we feel to you, how sexy and beautiful we look, how hot the action is...all these things will get us to the end much faster than the earlier phrases! Good luck and Happy Fucking!

Some like it rough!

When it comes to sex, some like it gentle and some like it rough.  Now, rough doesn't mean brutal.  I'm talking rough where you pull her hair or smack her ass, the kind of rough where you pound her pussy with your cock until it's puffy and red.  I'm talking about SEXY rough!

I will say that like most women, I don't always want sex to be the same way every time.  I don't always want it gentle or always want it rough.  I want a mixture of the 2 depending on my mood and my partner's mood.  Just like sometimes I want to be dominant and sometimes I want to be submissive.  That is the great thing about sex, it can be what you want...as long as you have a willing partner and good communication!

As I look for pictures for my blog posts, I'm often drawn to the ones where sex is intense and sometimes even a bit rough.  The red ass cheeks from having been slapped, or her head pulled back by her hair while he's riding her doggy style.  These are the pictures that catch my eye.  I will say that most women may enjoy a little roughness from her partner now and then, but don't get too carried away.  I personally don't like true pain during sex, it's distracting and I'm not a fan of anything that actually hurts.  I think most women would agree with me on that. 

Also, you need to watch about going over the line from some rough sex play to actually scaring or hurting your partner.  Men are bigger and stronger than they often realize, so you may not know until too late that a yank on our hair has left you with a handful of it.  So, be sure to temper your enthusiasm with caring and respect for your partner.  I will say that where men most often forget this is during a vigorous blow job...you get busy thrusting down our throats and forget that we can't breath!  Yeah, it's hot to see us gagging a bit and drooling on your cock, but just remember not to get too carried away!

For women, if you choose to engage in rough sex with your partner...have a safe word.  Talk to your partner about what is acceptable and what isn't.  But, more than anything, you need to have trust in your partner.  I believe trust is paramount in any kind of role playing where there is bondage, sub/dom, or roughness.

Rough sex can be fun, and add some serious sizzle into your bedroom if it's done right.
 







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Lick it like you mean it!

We all know men love a good blow job, but do women really love having their pussies ate?  I can only answer this from my point of view...HELL YES!! 

I know a lot of women that say they are always worried that they will taste/smell unpleasant to their partner.  I don't understand that...if you take a daily shower, then your natural smell and taste should be a turn on for him!  I had a friend once that used those female deodorant wipes constantly and didn't understand why her husband didn't like licking her pussy.  When she finally got the courage up to ask him, he said because he didn't like the taste of FLOWERS!

I say the natural musky smell and salty taste of a pussy is as much of a turn on to a male...as sucking on his cock and tasting precum is to a woman.  There is just something very natural and primal about the real taste of a person.  It can't be faked, it can't be erased.  And, personally I don't think it should be! 

Now, that we covered taste, lets work on technique!  Lets say, you have a man that loves eating your pussy (lucky you!) but his technique is a bit off.  Here is an almost sure fire way to get your woman to cum while you're going down!  Gently slide 1-2 fingers inside her pussy and apply upwards pressure..as if you are trying to push against her belly button from the inside..slide your fingers in and out with this upward pressure while you flick your tongue back and forth, or up and down against her clit.  This combination of internal and external stimulation will drive her crazy and have her clawing the sheets and squealing your name!!

Plus, as a side note..don't stop, a woman's orgasm builds up slowly and them POW they are there.  IF you stop the action then it has to restart from the beginning.  Plus, you don't like it when we stop sucking when you're cumming...its the same principal!  Just remember once she starts to cum, slow down the action and ease off the pressure just a bit to help carry her through her orgasm and even prolong the pleasure for a bit.  Continuing at the same pace/pressure is usually too much as she is cumming and it will actually shorten her orgasm and cause her to pull away from you instead of pushing up against you for a little longer.  Which is what you want, isn't it? (of course it is!)

If you have a woman that is shy about letting you eat her pussy, just assure her that her taste and scent is a turn on for you! Again, as always communication is key!  Often just having that bit of positive feedback from a partner is all that she needs to relax and open herself up to you, in more ways than one!  So good luck and happy eating ;)




Via Yany's EroticPics

via Yany's EroticPics

Snowballing

I had a friend that asked me to write a post about snowballing...so here it goes!!

Snowballing is when a guy cums in a woman's mouth and then she kisses him, or another girl and shares the cum..spitting it into her/his mouth.  Now, this is a bit more out of the box for most lovers.  Some guys don't want a mouthful of their own cum, either they find the taste objectionable or they feel it is wrong morally.  So, that makes this practice much more common among women during 3somes.

I will say that personally, I've tried this and not been a huge fan of it.  I don't mind swallowing, but holding it in my mouth and spitting it on someone else's is kind of pushing the envelope for me. However, I have women and men friends that think it's pretty awesome.  It is a very intimate and visually sexy act.  When it's between a man and woman..sharing his essence it can be quite the bonding experience.  When it's between 2 women, well it's just sexy as hell for the guy to see them swapping his cum as they kiss!

I am a bigger fan of a guy licking his cum out of my pussy after he's cum in it.  Cleaning me up..and getting me ready for round two!  I have found, however that this isn't that common among men either.  Again, some men think that it's their body fluid and no big deal...others have looked at me like I just grew a 3rd head when I suggested it! 

So, this is one of those things that you really need to talk to your partner about (and the 3rd person if in a threesome!).  Because, it could quickly go from sexy to gross if you spit cum into someone's mouth that isn't ready for it.  I always say that the best sex comes from great communication and this is no different.  You really have to know your lover and what their boundaries are before you jump into something this out of the box! 

This can be the gateway sex act that opens up new doors for you and your lover...or it can be something you try once and decide isn't for you.  Or, you might decide that simply from talking about it.  The thing is, sex is about experimentation and fun.  It doesn't always have to be about "making love" ...sometimes it can simply be about "trying something new!" 

So, think outside of the box and you just might find that there are a lot of things you haven't tried before..maybe this is one of them..for now ;)




 


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Blindfold me..

Male or female...it's sexy to be blindfolded!  Suddenly, without the visual stimulation we have to rely on our other senses, each touch has a little more zing, each moment a bit sweeter taste of anticipation.  We can't see what is coming next, so it's always a surprise.  Is that lips or a pussy, is that fingers or cock?

The thing about being blindfolded is that almost everyone likes it.  Yes, you need to trust your partner, but unlike some of the more hardcore bondage, this can be easily removed and the game stops.  When you are blindfolded you become a submissive partner that is willing to accept your lover's desires and time frame.  He may touch you slowly, or not at all.....he may choose to let his warm breath tease your body.  She may kiss you, but is that her lips or her pussy that presses against your mouth?  Suddenly you taste the saltiness of your partner's sweat, the sweetness of their juice. 

I will admit to having been blindfolded by more than a few partners, and I've done some blindfolding of my own.  I love the way I can be submissive or dominant depending on who is wearing it!  I think that personally the best part of being blindfolded is never knowing the moment when your lover is going to shove his cock into you...it's a jolt of pure sensation when suddenly your pussy is stretched and filled without the expectation of it!

Being blindfolded can be erotic in a romantic sensual way...or in a naughty lusty way...all depending on your lover's touch.  You may find he grabs your hair...whispering hotly into your ear that you are his to master.  Or she may sit on your face and demand you suck her pussy, that you are there to pleasure HER.  Either way, all  you need is a blindfold and a willing partner to spice up your bedroom!
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